Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Werewolf Erotica and the Most Awesome Review Ever

My friend and fellow erotica writer Mathilde Gregory has a hilarious piece in The Guardian talking about the fact that a US prisoner sued for the right to read her werewolf erotica book.

After Martinez's request for the book had been denied because of its depictions of sex and violence, he had gone to court and an American judge had carefully worked his way through the whole thing to deduce whether or not it had literary merit. And then ruled that it did. I'm not a lawyer, but I assume that means that it is now the law that I have literary merit.

The court report includes a full plot synopsis, that is probably more detailed and well put together than the one I produced when I proposed the actual book. It goes on to ask the opinion of a creative writing teacher, who seems to like it, and is quoted as saying its themes of freedom are proof of its "literary merit" and that it has "characteristics of literary fiction". And "considerable effort went into the creation of the book, and the plot is more than a sham." More than a sham? Aw, shucks. Later, the report calls my book "Perhaps less than Shakespearian?" Perhaps? Well OK, as long as there's only a little doubt as to whether I am better than Shakespeare, legally.
Here's the article in Time magazine describing the werewolf erotica case.

On Twitter Mathilde has said that out-of-print copies of the book were going for over $80. It currently is only available as an ebook but will be re-released in paperback next year.

Monday, June 24, 2013

What Is "Erotica For Women" Exactly?

The phrase "erotica for women" is pretty broad and it means different things to different people.

"Erotica" can refer to both written and visual content that deals with sex. A lot of people assume that "erotica" is more artistic or socially redeeming that "porn" although ultimately that definition is simply in the eye of the beholder. There's an old joke that says: "Erotica is when you use a feather, porn is when you use the whole chicken."

The "for women" part is also a little tricky. Which women, exactly? Not all women want the same thing and women aren't a homogenous group. There are straight women, queer women, ciswomen and transwomen. Some women like romance, others like hardcore rough sex, some like soft focus, beautiful-style sex, others want BDSM. Trying to cater to all women is not possible.

Still, it's important to acknowledge that most porn and erotica leaves women out of the picture. It's designed for men, whether gay or straight, and the assumption is that men are the primary audience. Female fantasies and perspectives are often ignored.

Thus "erotica for women" is a way of flagging sexy content that at least acknowledges a female audience or tries to depict sex from a female point of view.

Thursday, June 06, 2013

Kaleidogasm - An Unusual Erotic Video

This is a rather mind-bending video called "Kaleidogasm". It takes images of sex and mirrors them so it all becomes surreal and strange. It's also a little bit arousing.

The video comes from my new site Bright Desire which is a feminist, sex positive site with lots of different, interesting and HOT porn videos.
Bright Desire is couples porn, feminist style

Saturday, September 01, 2012

Feminist Porn - A Guide

If you're looking for erotica that's smart, sexy, respectful to women and sex positive, you need to find check out the world of feminist porn. That's the term being used to describe the new wave of porn made by women that leaves behind all the old cliches and offensive crap that is the hallmark of mainstream porn.

Feminist Porn Guide gives you a comprehensive look at this "genre". It features an article discussing the definition and aesthetics of feminist porn and then provides a list of feminist porn directors and their films. There's also a listing of quality adult sites.

For a handy guide, check out the Periodic Table of Feminist Porn.

Thursday, June 04, 2009

Erotica for Women in Australia

Check out this new site: Erotica for Women Australia. A great resource of erotic sites, books and movies for Australian women.

Plus it's got a real "fuck you" page about censorship in Australia, where there is no guarantee of freedom of speech and there's currently a plan to introduce mandatory internet filtering.

Monday, March 17, 2008

Porn For New Moms Site

So the baby is here and sex goes right out the window. But now there's a site to help new mothers get their sex lives back on track:

Porn for New Moms offers tips for spicing up things in the bedroom, plus recommended porn sites, adult movies for women and instructional books. Plus a bit of erotica thrown in.

Monday, August 27, 2007

Female Fantasies: Seriously Good Erotica

Let me tell you about a wonderfully good erotica for women movie produced by a British woman. It's called Female Fantasies and I suspect it's the best porn movie I've seen.

Petra Joy's second film is unashamedly for women. It's got a distinct female viewpoint and the main aim is to show women enjoying themselves and getting off.

I mean, how does this sound: a woman lies blindfolded on a bed while eight different men and women tickle, stroke, kiss and lick her. There's no male orgasm, just a bunch of people giving her pleasure. I've never seen anything like it in a film before - and that's just the first scene! Everything in this movie is seriously hot and it really does depict real women's sexual fantasies.

Please visit to find out more about Petra's films

Tuesday, July 10, 2007

Story: Longing For Elise

Elise is a beautiful woman. She has liquid brown eyes and shining dark hair that curls around her face. Her skin is almost too perfect; it’s like the kind you see in beauty magazines. She has a wide mouth and very kissable lips. I think a lot about kissing those lips, actually. Her body is lithe and well proportioned, an efficient mélange of curves and muscle. She casts a Hollywood kind of shadow.

And I want her. I want to smell her hair and take off her clothes. I want to touch her bare warm skin and taste it, to push my fingers into her wet pussy and feel the smoothness of her cunt.

I get wet just thinking about that.


This is an excerpt from Longing For Elise, a new erotic story I wrote for For The Girls. Every week we publish new erotic fiction written just for women from a variety of authors.

Monday, June 25, 2007

Women who like to perve

An old Aussie ad for men's underwear. The guy is hot.

Sunday, June 17, 2007

Erotic Fiction: Cream

Cream turns me on.

Luscious, smooth, thick, thick cream. Dollops of it. Bowlfuls of it, oozing, running, flowing. A lusty indulgence, a sinful luxury in a non-fat, low-carb, asparatame-flavored world, a plethora of tasty sensuality poured out and consumed hungrily.

Even the word cream is lustrous. It lives quietly in the mouth, a breathy utterance that ends in a smile. It evokes the texture and taste and the gentle, velvety richness.

You know how much I love cream, how I want to be creamed up, over and on. You indulge me in this. You love it too.

You seduced me with poetry on cream-textured paper, enticed me with your cream-coloured tie. At dinner you fed me chocolate pudding, but it was just an excuse to pour thick, yellowish, Jersey cream all over the dark, sticky sweetness. I licked the spoon and laughed.

Today you are making love to me in a cream-coloured room...

This story is from For The Girls.

Monday, June 11, 2007

Feminist Porn Awards

Last week in Toronto the 2nd Annual Feminist Porn Awards were held, honoring adult movies that focus on female pleasure. Guests included Anna Span, Simone Valentino and Shine Louise Houston.

Here's the list of winners:

Hottest Group Sex Scene Under the Covers | Candida Royalle; Femme Productions

Hottest Trans Sex Scene
In Search of the Wild Kingdom | Shine Louise Houston; Blowfish Video

Hottest Straight Sex Scene
City of Flesh II | Estelle Joseph; Stella Films

Hottest Bisexual Sex Scene
The Bi Apple | Audacia Ray; Adam and Eve

Hottest Love Scene
Matt and Khym | Tony Comstock; Comstock Films

Best New Star
Simone Valentino, Afrodite Superstar | Femme Chocolat

Hottest Gonzo Sex Scene and Hottest Diverse Cast
Chemistry 1| Tristan Taormino; Vivid Video

Hottest Couples Scene
Burning Lust | Skye Blue & Kelly Holland; Playgirl

Best Smutty Schoolteacher (educational)
Hearts Cracked Open | Betsy Kalin

Hottest Dyke Sex Scene
Superfreak | Shine Louise Houston; Blowfish Video

Best Feature
The Masseuse | Paul Thomas; Vivid Video

Indie Porn Pioneer
Anna Span; Easy On The Eye Productions

Sunday, June 03, 2007

New Porn Movie Reviews

I've written up some new film reviews at Porn Movies For Women.

Afrodite Superstar Review
The Bi Apple Review
Under The Covers Review

Monday, May 07, 2007

OK, so I only ever visit every 6 months. At least I came back.

And this time I've jazzed the whole thing up a bit with a new template. Better than the old crappy one.

Blogger upgraded itself while I was away. Now it's got a lot more whizbang elements. I feel old. But then again, I started this blog way back in the misty past - 2003.

So, what's new in my world of women's erotica?

Well, For The Girls continues to power along, just as popular as ever.

I've made an exciting new AVS site called Women's Erotica Club.

I've also made these free sites:
Beautiful Porn Photos
Sexual Origami
Indian Sex Gods
Lick My Cunt
A Little Light Bondage
Room Service

Monday, October 02, 2006

I spent a fair bit of time yesterday writing up a large article on the history of porn for women.

The article looks at the origins of the male centerfold in the 70s and tracks the development of women's porn through to the present.

It's not a huge history, admittedly, but it's still quite expansive given that many people still don't believe that "porn for women" is a legitimate idea.

We've come a long way, baby.
Visit my new blog and porn directory at Quirky Sex. This site aims to feature unusual and kinky porn, as well as independent and pro-sex adult sites.

Naturally, it has a porn for women category. :)

Sunday, May 07, 2006

Did you know that a recent survey found that the celebrity women most wanted to see naked was Matthew McConaughey?

My main blog, Ms Naughty Porn for Women, discussed this issue a couple of months ago, here. The survey, by the Chicago Sun-Times was surprised to find that women were so gung-ho keen to see naked male celebrities. I'm not sure why. Getting it on with the hunky superstar of choice has been a standard fantasy for a very long time, I suspect.

Anyway, I went through my existing pics of naked men and found a set of a guy who looks surprising like Matthew. So I made the Naked Matthew McConaughey Lookalike site. Enjoy.

Tuesday, March 07, 2006

What's the latest in the world of Erotica for Women?

Well, you can read it all at my regularly updated blog, Ms Naughty Porn for Women Blog.

There you'll discover some cool stuff like:

* Candida Royalle is working on two new movies.

*Inpulse Pictures is about to release a new film

* have teamed up with Wicked in a distribution deal

And of course, you'll get the inside track on what's happening at my own site For The Girls.

This month we interviewed male porn star Nick Manning and discovered that his ego is bigger than his cock. Not that we cared because we have some hot pics of him to enjoy. Do we really need our eye candy to open his mouth?

We've also got some seriously hot erotic fiction and true stories of sex adventures in "True Confessions."

And a huge downloadable DVD archive so you can watch porn movies without the embarrassment of renting them.

If you want to know what good adult videos are out there for women, please visit my site Porn Movies for Women. I updated it yesterday with new recommendations and a swathe of new reviews.

Wednesday, November 09, 2005

Woohoo! I did it! I worked out why the links down the side kept repeating over and over. It was the blogdateheader tag that was stuffing things up.

Do you know I've had this blog for almost 3 years now? Wow. Poor neglected thing that it is.

I've been reading about Anna Span, who is a British porn director. Apparently she makes porn movies with a female perspective.
Funny how time flies. And funny how ten months flies like a 747. I can't believe my last post was in January.

Still, here I am, reviving this blog, if only for a little bit.

What have I done in ten months? I'm asking myself that question! Aside from working constantly at For The Girls, I've been maintaining a huge list of sites, running my linklist and blog at Ms Naughty Porn for Women, putting out fires, worrying about the stupid 2257 legislation, promoting FTG, moving my large AVS sites to a new company and I also went overseas.

I've made quite a few contacts within the porn industry too. And I've seen a growth in interest in erotica for women. I've got to know porn director Estelle Joseph who makes the City of Flesh series, and seen Tony Comstock's real sex movies go from strength to strength.

In terms of tangible (read: online) stuff:

I created a major site for Adult Video Planet called Hetero Male Porn Stars. This is a site offering movie clips of the best looking male porn stars, taken from high quality movies. It's a site designed primarily for female surfers. Fact is, a lot of men in the porn industry are just gorgeous, but they're always playing second fiddle to the women. I thought it was time they got their own site.

I've been building up my list of female-friendly adult films at Porn Movies for Women. It seems that there are a number of naughty girly movies in the works, so I can't wait to see those.

There's these sites
Dick Slips - focusing on that fab moment when a penis falls out of a man's underpants
Water Fantasy - a playful woman sneaks up on a hunk in the shower

I also have created a directory of sex museums around the world: Erotic Museums.
This was inspired by my visit to the Erotic Museum in Paris in September. It was fascinating stuff, and I wrote an article about it for FTG.

Right... so here's a couple of lovely nude men galleries just to keep you entertained:

An awesome selection of hung ebony hunks
Men outdoors: big cocks near big rocks

PS. I want to give a plug to my page devoted to nude men, it's the naked men page at Streakerama.

Tuesday, January 25, 2005

You know, I'm buggered if I can work out why the listings down the side repeat over and over. I've fiddled with the template to no avail! Oh well.

By the way, if you want to see some fabulous amateur porn featuring REAL people having REAL sex, visit Real Fucking Couples. Great site. Nice tour too!

Oh, and if you wanted the latest in women's porn movies, check out Velvet Thrust. This film features the gorgeous Julian and was made by Inpulse pictures, a studio designed to make porn for women!
Busy Busy Busy

For all my musings on erotica for women, visit Ms Naughty Porn for Women Blog
Ms Naughty also has a linklist with a lot of great 4women sites on it.

4 Women Erotica - new directory

Thursday, October 14, 2004

Haven't posted in this blog for ages. This is because I'm working on my new blog at Ms Naughty Porn for Women

A few new sites
Masturbating Men - huge site featuring over 1000 photos of guys jerking off
Costume Fantasies - Hardcore porn in costumes - roman orgies, slaves and masters and more!
Hot 80s Chick Magnets - I had fun making this site featuring a glam rocker guy.
Couples Fucking Outdoors - Sex outside is good
Clitbot - guide to porn

For The Girls is going really well. We had a fabulous review posted on Jane's Guide the other day.

Wednesday, June 16, 2004

I've launched a new 4women linklist called Ms Naughty's Porn for Women. Been very busy for the last month making it.

The media have picked up on the idea of women's erotica, usually referring to it as "chick porn". I've written an article about the idea of "chick porn" here.

Sunday, May 02, 2004

May already! I get so few opportunities to update this blog.

Been very busy in the last month. I've conducted a media interview about
For the Girls
and we were seen very VERY briefly on TV.

Also I've rejigged the tours for Pure Cunnilingus and The Autofellatio Site. I'm getting very good with Photoshop now, if I do say so myself :)

I also made a site called Orgasmic Male Faces. Porn very rarely shows a man's face during orgasm - the focus is always on semen. This is because most porn is for men and semen is their visual experience of male orgasm. For women, however, it's always his face that we see. So I thought I'd make a site that showed male faces at that point of ecstasy. It's much more human. And a man is very vulnerable and completely himself at that point.

The other big thing I've done is create a site within the ARS movie network called Couples Pleasure Dome. This site has scenes from full length porn movies, and I chose them because women and couples will enjoy them.

I think movies will be the next big thing in internet porn, as more people get broadband access. Unfortunately the vast majority of movies are made for men, and it's harder to adapt them for female audiences. Still I chose the best ones out there.

Tuesday, April 06, 2004

There's still not many porn movies for women out there. I know because I've spent waaaay too many hours researching, trying to list movies that women might be interested in. My new site has a fairly decent list of them now. There's a whole lotta instructional videos too.

I made another site called Goddess Erotica, which is kind of highbrow erotica with articles about spiritual sex... and it's got some nice black and white photography on it.

The promotional week for For The Girls went really well, our site is now much better known and is being more thoroughly promoted. There are still people out there advertising the defunct Ladies Secret... if only they could advertise us!!

We're going to add more movies to FTG, there's some seriously good ones out there. I enjoyed Antique Erotica, which features really old movies and a jazz soundtrack. It's good to watch because they didn't employ all those stupid porn movie cliches. They smile, the play together, they make love, even if it is for the camera. Good smut!

I made a site about Muff Diving. Unfortunately muff diving tends to mean lesbian oral sex, as opposed to male-female cunnilingus... it's so hard for women to find that kind of content because all they get is fake lesbian stuff.

Sunday, March 07, 2004

I'm back... and women's porn is in the news again
Been away for a few weeks, and now I'm back "beavering" away on my gazillion porn sites, trying to change links left right and centre. The paysites Ladies Secret and Red Hot Guys are no longer operating, so I'm going through all my sites and taking down their banners.

Of course, this leaves a big gap in the market for For The Girls. I've got a big promotional week ahead of me :)

Meanwhile, women's porn is in the news again. In February the New York Times deigned to write about women and porn. It's mainly due to the Sweet Action girls and their extremely successful promo blitz. They've succeeded in making the media take notice, and suddenly "women like porn" is the new buzz.

I guess I'm jealous. I'd love that kind of publicity. What's interesting is that it's because Sweet Action is a print mag... there's something about hard copy that seems to have made it real to the media. The vibe I get is that internet porn is still all sleazy or non-legitimate, but if it's in a magazine, it must be good.

What's also interesting has been the "youth" angle. Suddenly, they're all out to say "Playgirl is soooo passe, these chicks are hip and groovy and young, this is what women really want." This has just made me realise (once again) that women have extremely varied tastes, and that while the skinny every day guys that appear in Sweet Action will appeal to some women, they won't appeal to all.

Don't get me wrong, I can only admire the Sweet Action girls, they're fighting the good fight. They do have a hard road ahead, especially as they've taken on hard copy magazine publishing when every other smut mag is losing readers. At the same time, the women's smut mag market is pretty much wide open, so they do have an opportunity, and the press are certainly helping them get out there.

Tomorrow I'm going on the Darren Austin show with the Sweet Action girls, and Cathedra, to talk about porn for women. Here's hoping Darren remembers to ring me at the right time.

One of the interesting figures coming out of the NY Times article was the latest statistics. According to Neilsen Netratings, 10 million American women went looking for porn in December (as opposed to 9 million in September). And another company, ComScore Media Matrix, said 42% of porn surfers were women, with the highest rates among women aged 18 to 34.

That 42% figure may be a bit high, and lord knows all the male webmasters immediately said "yeah, but they don't BUY". Even so, I find it very VERY encouraging.

Now... if I can just get the courage up to out myself as a pornographer I could do my own media blitz...

Sunday, February 08, 2004

Still difficult for women to find pictures of naked men so I've put up a page to help them out.

Thursday, January 29, 2004

I've put up a porn for women page on Streakerama, in the hope of helping women find what they want despite the current Google mess.

I'm also feeling really pissed off because comments I wrote on a message board were plagiarised and passed off as another person's on a different board. I feel like posting a really nasty post about this person, or something! Grrr.

Thursday, January 22, 2004

I think you should visit Porn for Women biz. I've just put up a whole pile of articles about porn for women there.

Also, check out the muff diving FAQ

And Bring My My Lolly

Sunday, January 11, 2004

I've just fiddled with the template, and I'm buggered if I can work out why the right hand column keeps repeating itself like that. Grrr.

I forgot to mention - I made a new site called Naked Men News. I'm going to keep track of news items about naked men, as well as write a few articles and add a few naked men photos :)

I also made a site called the Public Nudity Pages. This isn't porn for women, but it's an offshoot of my streaking site.
Welcome to 2004, when erotica for women will take over the world! Got to do more writing for For The Girls and continue making sure it's the best premium women's erotica site out there :)

I've started up another site about porn for women, I've written an article there about the various aspects of porn for women. More on this later.

At the moment it's really hard for women to find what they're after as Google's new algorithm has resulted in extremely crappy search results. If you type in porn for women (without quote marks) you actually get anti-porn crusade sites, from crazed conservative women.

Over new year this report came out in, of all places, the Hindustan Times. It discusses research done by Stanford University in California which shows that women become turned on by porn films far quicker than men do. It only took them about 2 minutes on average. They also found that women responded better to explicit stuff than to more romantic erotic films.

Not surprising really!

Sunday, December 14, 2003

I've fiddled with the template of the Erotica for Women blog... I'm not sure if it's working properly so this is a test post :)
Seventeen Years Since The First Erotica Film for Women
... and not enough has changed.
Candida Royalle made a huge breakthrough in the mid eighties with her Femme series of films, the first adult movies made from a female perspective. Today there still aren't enough of these videos, so the Femme series remains popular. Candida's site is great, but the most interesting page is her "behind the scenes" stories of making the Femme films. She details her efforts to make erotica that reflected the experiences of women, and the problems (and success) she encountered. So much of her philosophy is spot-on, and I can only stand and applaud that she did all this in the eighties, with so little support.

What's also interesting is that Candida had to put up with EXACTLY THE SAME male responses 17 years ago that I get now. Back then male porn gurus were saying her films would fail simply because she didn't have "the money shot! And today so many other webmasters keep saying to me "Women aren't visual" and "Women don't like porn." Which is what they said to Candida. She proved them wrong then, and For The Girls is proving them now :)
PS - I've made a new site, it's called Naked Men News!
Women's Erotica IS different!
OK... I finally have a scientific response to those people who say that "hardcore is just hardcore, couples don't belong in the 4women section".

From BBC Horizon site:
The reason it seems is that for women, being turned on sexually is more to do with the brain than the pelvis. Dr Ellen Laan turned to erotic videos to try to understand the female sexual response. She showed women two films. One concentrated on the man's pleasure; one on the woman's. Her subjects experienced increased vaginal blood flow with both films, but only reported being turned on by the film that was more focussed on female pleasure. Laan deduced that - unlike men - for women the genitals are not the best indicator of arousal. 
See guys: "more focussed on female pleasure"! It's not rocket science you know! Although this concept does seem to involve thinking outside of the male viewpoint which seems enormously difficult for some to achieve...

Sunday, December 07, 2003

Erotica for Women set to grow.

A few weeks ago Nielsen Netratings published the results of their latest survey of surfing habits. It turns out that a third of visitors to porn sites are women, and that in September alone 9.5 million American women intentionally accessed porn sites.

These statistics came as a shock to an awful lot of porn webmasters, but no surprise to me at all. I KNEW women wanted to look at porn, but the porn industry simply wasn't prepared to respond to that need. So many stereotypes got in the way: "women aren't visual, women' don't buy porn" etc etc. Even now I face stubborn resistance to the idea that women might want to enjoy porn.

Of course, others couldn't help but notice the flashing light that the Nielsen statistics presented. Suddenly people were looking at their membership logs, and realising that a decent percentage of women were joining their male-focused porn sites. They were shocked.

(I, meanwhile, was feeling a little smug. LOL)

This survey doesn't change the fact that women want their own form of erotica, one that reflects their own experiences of sex and sensuality. It's a goal of mine to ensure that women can firstly find this kind of content, as well as enjoy it.

I've written an article on the survey, as well as possible reasons why women aren't rushing out to spend money on porn in the way that men do. Yes, Women do buy porn.

I also did an interview with Webmaster vault about the issue of erotica for women. Please note - the articles are aimed at adult webmasters, not surfers. But it gives an idea of the kind of stuff I'm trying to do. This industry needs to wake up and start providing women with decent porn!

I'm doing my best - For The Girls is steaming along nicely, new stuff written all the time, and we're finding heaps of great content. Hopefully one day it will become THE major erotica for women site on the internet. :)

Wednesday, September 17, 2003

The Rules of Porn... and what they should be

The following is a list of "rules" that seem to apply to every porn film and photo set ever shot.
1. Women wear high heels to bed.
2. Men are never impotent.
3. When going down on a woman 10 seconds is more than satisfactory.
4. If a woman gets busted masturbating by a strange man, she will not scream with embarrassment, but rather insist he have sex with her.
5. Women smile appreciatively when men splat them in the face with sperm.
6. Women enjoy having sex with ugly, middle-aged men.
7. Women moan uncontrollably when giving a blowjob.
8. Women always orgasm when men do.
9. A blowjob will always get a woman off a speeding ticket.
10. All women are noisy fucks.
11. People in the 70s couldn't fuck unless there was a wild guitar solo in the background.
12. Those tits are real.
13. A common and enjoyable sexual practice for a man is to take his half-erect penis and slap it repeatedly on a woman's butt.
14. Men always groan "OH YEAH!" when they cum.
15. If there is two of them they "high five" each other. (and the girl isn't disgusted!)
16. Double penetration makes women smile.
17. Asian men don't exist.
18. If you come across a guy and his girlfriend having sex in the bushes, the boyfriend won't bash seven shades of shit out of you if you shove your cock in his girlfriend's mouth.
19. There's a plot.
20. When taking a woman from behind, a man can really excite a woman by giving her a gentle slap on the butt.
21. Nurses suck patient's cocks.
22. Men always pull out.
23. When your girlfriend busts you getting head from her best friend, she'll only be momentarily pissed off before fucking the both of you.
24. Women never have headaches... or periods.
25. When a woman is sucking a man's cock, it's important for him to remind her to "suck it".
26. Assholes are clean.
27. A man ejaculating on a woman's butt is a satisfying result for all parties concerned.
28. Women always look pleasantly surprised when they open a man's trousers and find a cock there.
29. Men don't have to beg.
30. When standing during a blowjob, a man will always place one hand firmly on the back of the kneeling woman's head and the other proudly on his hip.

So, I've made up a list of what SHOULD be the rules of porn, and hopefully we'll see much more of these once women take over the industry (muhwahahahah!)

1. Men love cunnilingus and their tongues never get tired
2. Every man knows where the clitoris is
3. Small boobs, bellies, pubic hair are all extremely sexy
4. Men who smile are the greatest lovers
5. Every man works out
6. When a man ejaculates, you only ever see his face
7. All orgasms in porn are real
8. Women don’t have to tell men what to do during sex, they always automatically know
9. Even when strangers have sex, the man will always know the right way to pleasure the woman
10. An erotic encounter may well end in marriage. OK, that last one's a joke.

PS - We're trying to make more of these new rules a reality at For The Girls Erotica for Women Ezine! Click here to see what porn SHOULD be like!

Tuesday, August 26, 2003

For The Girls Ezine and Erotica for Women

Over the last few months I've been "beavering" away with a partner of mine, and together we've created a brand new women's erotica site - For The Girls. This site has everything we think a good smut site should have - naked men, sexy couples, hot movies with lots of cunnilingus, male strippers, articles, erotic fiction, columns, humour, sex advice... It's got everything.

If you're female and like smut, please do me the honour of heading over and checking out what we have to offer. :)
Click here to see naked men and sexy couples at For The Girls

Saturday, April 26, 2003

Madonna's Erotica Book Sex - A Good Example of Quality Erotica for Women

I had a chance to peruse through Madonna's 1992 book Sex the other day, and it got me thinking about erotica for women.

Madonna's book contains numerous photographs of Madonna in various stages of undress, posing in sexual situations. No real sex is shown, however the photos include depictions of cunnilingus, spanking, fetish, lesbianism, interracial sex, threesomes and even rape. The premise is that Madonna is exploring her own sexual fantasies through photography, and that none of the written depictions reflect reality.

I thought the book was very arousing. A lot of the situations reflect many women's sexual fantasies, not just Madonna's. Nancy Friday's book My Secret Garden revealed that many women dream of just these sorts of sexual encounters. Naturally, any decent women's erotica deals with women's fantasies.

The book's lack of explicitness adds to its appeal, I think, because it gives the imagination a little more scope than hardcore porn. At the same time, the very fact that a celebrity such as Madonna is naked and exposed in this book adds an element of shock to the titillation factor.

The power relationships in Sex are definitely in the woman's favour. There is a photograph of Madonna receiving cunnilingus from a giant biker in an alleyway. I think this pic is the epitome of Madonna's sexual philosophy - she is in charge, no matter how powerful the man may seem. Again, good erotica for women should reflect this kind of power.

Perhaps more importantly, Madonna's Sex is a prime example of women's erotica because Madonna herself is always being given pleasure. That is, a woman, rather than a man is the centre of attention. So much mainstream porn and erotica is written for the male viewer, but Madonna reversed this; everyone else in the photos exist purely to give her satisfaction

I can only conclude that Madonna's Sex book could almost be considered the godmother today's erotica for women on the internet. It's now over ten years old, but the book still impresses with it's boundary-breaking sexuality. And those who are seeking to create good erotica for women should go back and have a look at this book. There are enough ideas here to create hundreds of erotica for women sites! :D

Saturday, February 08, 2003

Naked Men

Naked men. It's what a lot of people think erotica for women is about. Be it naked men with big dicks, black hunks, latin babes, even nude male celebrities the vast majority of available erotica for women focuses on the naked man.

And, no doubt, there are plenty of women out there who find looking at naked men to be very arousing.

Personally, I always prefer looking at couples photos, and sex photos. I find them more of a turn on.

Which is interesting. I've wondered why it is that I can happily admire a naked man and find him sexy, but it does nothing for me in terms of stoking up the fires down below. Is it because women aren't trained to look at dicks? Chances are, our first experiences with sexually explicit material was the dirty mag under the bed, and the pics were all of women. Does this have an effect on us later in life. If todays girls are sneaking a look at women's erotica sites, will they feel more aroused and at home with naked men when they're more mature?

The perception that erotica for women = naked men is the one that leads to so many horrible gay sites masquerading as women's erotica. It seems there are a lot of stupid webmasters out there who think that a horny woman thinks exactly like a gay man. So we get pics of men with their butt cheeks spread apart, and ads for gay sites where guys are sucking other guys dicks. Sigh.

Anyway, you'll find heaps of links to erotica for women at Erotica for Women Info

And more erotica for women at these sites:

Naked Straight Men

Women's Erotica Info

Naked Men for Women

Pure Cunnilingus

Monday, February 03, 2003

What Is Erotica For Women?

Erotica for women is photos of naked men. Naked men who aren't gay. Often these naked men are the stuff our dreams and fantasies are made of. Or they just have big dicks.

Erotica for women is photos of couples having sex. Couples sharing intimacy, kissing, enjoying hugs and laughing playfully together. It's photos pf men lovingly giving women oral sex, and paying constant attention to the clitoris during sex. It's photos of eye contact during sex, and afterglow, and real, enjoyable sexual experiences.

Erotica for women is well written erotica with engaging storylines and hot fantasy sex that appeals to women's secret dreams and desires.

Erotica for women is controlling a man, and being controlled. It's sharing a life, or sharing a moment. It's the fulfilment of an orgasm, or a simple kiss. It's demanding everything a woman wishes, and receiving it without inhibition or embarrassment.

Erotica for women is a celebration of women's sexuality, of women's capacity for pleasure, for love, for pain, for desire.

Erotica for women is also becoming very popular. Why? Because the old myth about women "not being visual" and "not being turned on by porn" is disappearing. Women are taking charge of their sexuality. They are enjoying sex, and enjoying their right to look at and read about sex, from their own perspective.

Want more? Check out the Porn for Women Network